Should I be surprised at the secrets someone holds? Should I be surprised at someone who smiles and is cheerful all the time but actually is in pain? I have been surprised recently by what some people have revealed, but pleasantly. It shows how fragile and complex all of us are.
Some of us hide emotional pain behind a curtain of joviality. Others hide anger behind a drape of seriousness. Many hide insecurity; insecure about being left alone and not being loved.
I have learnt many things in the past few months, in particular, interesting facts about others and myself. In general, the following observations have been corroborated:
Everyone deserves being listened to, no matter who they are, what they have done and what they think of others.
Not everyone can listen. Some are good, some try to be good and others are just impatient. Some of us share our thoughts with everyone, while others only talk to a few friends who are self confessed counsellors/good listeners/ advisors.
When you lend your ear/shoulder don’t think that you have to say something or give advice or try and change someone’s thought process. Just listening is good enough. Like they say, a problem shared is a problem halved.
Some of us hide emotional pain behind a curtain of joviality. Others hide anger behind a drape of seriousness. Many hide insecurity; insecure about being left alone and not being loved.
I have learnt many things in the past few months, in particular, interesting facts about others and myself. In general, the following observations have been corroborated:
Everyone deserves being listened to, no matter who they are, what they have done and what they think of others.
Not everyone can listen. Some are good, some try to be good and others are just impatient. Some of us share our thoughts with everyone, while others only talk to a few friends who are self confessed counsellors/good listeners/ advisors.
When you lend your ear/shoulder don’t think that you have to say something or give advice or try and change someone’s thought process. Just listening is good enough. Like they say, a problem shared is a problem halved.
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